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How Are We Seeing the World?

So many parents I know are saying the same thing: my kids are anxious. They have been in school and are still having a hard time. Or they are only just now going back to school after a year of online school, and they are worried, fearful, and just not themselves.

Here is my response to all of us who are walking through this new world with our kids.

This is so upsetting. And yet so understandable. These kids have been holed up, restricted, everything’s been taken away from them. Society has taught them to be afraid and to be suspicious of others and illness.

And then we say, “But now, go back to school. And be happy. Be normal. Even though you need to stay afraid. But you’re fine. No? What’s wrong with you? Why are you so anxious?”

Seriously? With all our knowledge and statistics and information, we are doing a terrible job of the most important thing: teaching our kids that they are worthy, whole, healthy, vibrant, capable, and strong, no matter what. Unconditionally. Always.

And we can’t just tell them. We have to show them, be for them, examples of connection to goodness, kindness, and abundance. We can teach, but even more, we have to be this ourselves, for they have to discover this for themselves in their own hearts and minds. We have taught them to look around and assess how scary the world is. How mean and awful it is. No. Enough. We see the world not how it is but how we are.

If how we are isn’t bright and grateful and constantly in search of the Good, then how will we find it? How will they? It’s time to stop the madness of lack and fear and begin to rebuild. Our children’s wellness, our wellness, depend on it.

Wherefore Power?

How often do we refer to the parent-child relationship as a power struggle? Who has the power? The bigger, louder, sometimes out-of-control grown-up, or the smaller weaker, sometimes out-of-control kid? When a toddler throws a tantrum, who has the power? The screaming parent or the shrieking child who’s pulling the posters off his wall?

When a parent is angry and yelling, and the child is quiet and intimidated, who holds it then? There seems to be little doubt who holds more power. But is this so? Superficially, yes. But it is pretty evident that this is not only misused power, but it is also at the very least ineffective and at the worst destructive in the long term.

What about when a child is angry and screaming and the parent is evasive, unavailable, and non-responsive? Who holds the power then? Now the child is in charge, as it were. But this can be destructive too, can’t it? A cowering parent and an aggressive child is also a destructive dynamic in which neither party feels heard and seen and understood. This doesn’t lead to evolution either.
So what of these power struggles? Power itself is not inherently bad. It is how we interpret and use power that matter most. In other words, power over another always leads to the devaluing of the other, as well as the toxic inflation of the one in control.

Empowerment of self, however, well that’s another thing altogether. To be self-empowered, to be fully present to one’s own voice, is to align with nothing less than one’s highest truth. And this truth, in its essence, is love. It is eternal. It is the continuous infilling and outpouring of itself.

In every relationship, then, even in the dance that is the parent-child dynamic, if one uses power to exert her will on another, this is not love. If one tries to control or manipulate the other, this power is not love. It is only through empowerment of self that we can be in the presence of our parent or child and find alignment, regardless of the conditions the other presents.

Love can only exist when the scorching destructive flames of power give way to the cooling life-giving waters of freedom and evolution.

Heart Energy

Sean had his last EKG today. It was beautifully normal.

We now know that “the heart generates the largest electromagnetic field in the body….60 times greater than the brain.” (#heartmath)

As his mama, I hardly need a machine to tell me the strength of Sean’s heart energy, but seeing him connected to all these wires certainly reminded me of what science is now telling us.

The truth is, the fields of energy our hearts generate are powerful. Through them, we influence each other in ways that can inspire healing and wellness or hinder it.

Let’s use what we know to assist each other and contribute to the true health that is in each of us.

Where Does Unworthiness Come From?

In this conversation, Abraham Hicks discusses the source of our feelings of unworthiness and lack. So many of us feel “less than” and not good enough, and many of us live with this emptiness and pain for decades. The anxiety and paralysis that result from these stresses have given shape to a twenty-first-century plague that is emotionally and psychologically destroying many of us.

But, as with so many spiritual and mystical teachings that with a mere shift in perspective or phrase are literally changing lives, Abraham’s explanation of unworthiness does the same. Abraham’s words offer relief from the pressure and agony that result from decades of self-hatred and the denial of our true selves, which are, by definition, composed of, and reflect, the Divine.

We must find a way out of this darkness and into the light of truth and clarity. Our autonomy and sovereignty depend on it. This I know for sure. If we adults fail to connect with the worthiness in ourselves, we will surely fail to not only see it in our children, but also to respect, honor, and foster this wholeness in them.

True sovereignty over self requires an understanding that we are also part of the oneness that is community and greater consciousness. And to partake in this expansive vision, we must touch the Divine spark that is our inherent worth.

Where Do You Find Wellness?

I wanted to share this video from Dr. Mark Hyman.

At the same time that many of us are forced or choose to apply conventional treatments to our and our kids’ conditions, I believe it is essential that we find ways to detach from the diagnoses and details and take a much broader view of these situations.

We are spiritual beings having human experiences. And no matter what your personal beliefs are along the continuum that is life, spirit, and energy, I know that investigating and hopefully integrating some or all of what Dr. Hyman discusses will be beneficial to all of us in sickness and in health.

Spirit, energy, and the human experience are non-dual. The degree to which we thrive is determined by the choices we make and how we decide to observe our form-based conditions and move forward.

We Are Here to Create

We are creative beings.

It’s true that sometimes when things get tough, our passion for creating can wane.

But this is usually temporary. And actually, it is often when we are down or in pain or are fearful that creativity supports us the most.

Like all meaningful, elevating, enriching influences, creativity calls us, not from somewhere outside of ourselves, but rather, from within–from the depths of our own souls.

She is always with us, this spirit of genius, this angel companion. Yes, sometimes we turn away. But in our truest moments, at those times when we are most ourselves, we turn towards her again and listen.

When we create, even for a short time, any lack or fear or grief dissipates amidst the vibrant clarifying energy we experience. It is in these present moments that we acknowledge we are truly alive.

We are here to create and thrive.

Pain is Always a Portal

When in the discomfiting “is-ness” of reality we are able to catch a clarifying glimpse of our inner being and the glory of what it is manifesting, there can be no doubt of Source’s undying love for us. This is in fact what suffering calls us to, isn’t it?

Although sometimes, often, almost always challenging to discern, pain is a loving invitation. It’s is a portal through which we are called to walk. If we do so, and if we are open to it, we are met by an expansion so freeing that we are never again to accept the bondage of who we were merely moments before this spiritual birth.

Be You

And life goes on.

What’s the story you’re telling yourself? Are you arguing for your limitations or allowing your true glorious self to shine?

It’s Independence Day.

Decide to be your independent sovereign self, connected in every moment to the oneness of the Divine.